Self care with Sarah: Becoming a self expert in a fast paced society


Setting time aside to self reflect and be introspective can pose a challenge with the constant presence of stimuli in a fast paced society.

Technology and social media surrounds us, filling the gaps of our free time between our daily schedules and responsibilities with family, social life, work and school. With that being said, down time is limited and valued, especially in American culture. Any form of down time is often used to prepare for and worry about the future.

“I feel that we are always on the move as a society and it is very hard to slow down and just think about the day instead of thinking about the next day,” said Timothy Brown, junior biology major at Wilkes University.

Plus, self reflecting also forces us to acknowledge our deficiencies, imperfections and mistakes which can prove to be quite uncomfortable. It can be generally difficult to admit your mistakes and wrongdoings, especially if you are already going through a difficult time in your life.

“Self reflecting is such a hard thing to do, especially if you’ve done something you don’t want to bring up again. Some people may like it better at certain times in their lives, and find it harder to do in other times of their lives. It takes a very strong person to be able to look back on all the things they’ve done and all the mistakes they made and learn from all of it,” said Courtney Corona, first-year political science major at Wilkes University.

Consequently, a common idea of self reflection correlates with the mockery that often surrounds the phrase “talking about your feelings.” Some people consider it to be unnecessary and find other ways to cope with their issues.

“Some people might find it cheesy, it’s not the norm,” said Gregory Navestad, junior marketing major.

So, why would someone ever even think about practicing self reflection?

Self reflecting, although it can be challenging and time consuming for some, is essential to be able to grow and develop as a person. If your mind is constantly occupied with technology or your  responsibilities, all of the important thoughts and emotions are pushed to the side and can accumulate if they are ignored for too long.

“Life gets you in such a routine, especially in college, and you get so swept up in it it’s hard to break it,” said Corona.

Despite this, becoming introspective is possible and does not have to require you locking yourself in a dark room with your thoughts or sitting alone thinking for hours and hours.

“I’m definitely more introspective now than I have been in the past. I would never focus on what I wanted personally. It definitely helps you become a better person and get to know yourself better,” said Navestad.

Navestad continued to explain that he likes to self reflect when he is playing the guitar. He said the music he plays reflects his emotions and allows him to connect with his thoughts.

In addition, if you are mindful about your own perceptions and feelings, it will allow you to be able to do this for other people’s circumstances as well.

“I definitely feel that self reflection has made me a better person, and helps when trying to be empathetic and sympathetic to others,” said Brown.

However, too much self reflecting can lead to an increased amount of negative thoughts that will cloud your self perception.

“It is hard to take that extra step back and look at the whole situation and own your faults, but also recognize your achievements,” said Brown.

Therefore, in order to reap the benefits of praticing self reflection, you have to find that medial point between overthinking and not being introspective enough. Being still and becoming in touch with yourself and your thoughts.

“Reflecting on yourself and being introspective helps you make more conscious decisions for yourself. You will make more decisions for yourself versus what other people may want you to do…You should worry first about your happiness, and then worry about the happiness of others,” said Corona.