What I would really like to know is why many men, certainly not all, but definitely many, think that it is completely OK to disrespect women by how they address their female equivalents.
I am not referring to a woman being called the B-word, (otherwise known as a female dog,) when she is actually acting in a way that qualifies the use of the term. In such a case, words like this may be acceptable but of course the word “may” here is used rather loosely. In other words, I don’t recommend it in excess.
For example, one college-aged “boy” on my Facebook newsfeed a few months ago would excessively post rude sq C-word left and right as if it proved or supported any point at all. Such a case is never acceptable, as most of us already know.
I am more specifically focusing here on how in our society, we don’t think twice before using the insulting vocabulary on the female gender as a whole for no reason.
But how many songs can you think of where females are referred to as “bitches” and “hoes” amongs other condescending and disrespectful names? I can think of quite a few, and honestly, I feel that it severely decreases the value of the music, but that is beside the point.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not a die-hard feminist. Girls, in general, bother me. And this is also not to say that women are completely innocent either. Nikki Minaj drops the B-bomb on her own kind in nearly every song she writes.
The music industry is just the beginning of the trend. Hip-Hop has had quite the long history of condescending women within the genre’s lyrics. Some songs are of course worse than others, but still.
It makes the music sounds trashy and classless, which is a shame because the actual music may be good.
Sure, most rappers have good-intentions but what makes verbally demeaning women something of absolute necessity when producing a quality song?
I had a conversation with someone maybe a year and a half ago about this kind of music and whether or not it can be considered “art.” He said yes, as disrespectful and tasteless the lyrics may be, it’s art.
I said absolutely not.
When I think of art, I think of MoMA in New York City. I think of theatre, drawing, dancing, modeling, designing and singing from the heart. But that’s just me.
I wanted to believe that this phase was relatively new, but it is in fact not a phase at all. I wanted to believe that women were at some point in human time completely respected in the entire sense of the word, and they might have been, but it isn’t clear.
Continuing with the B-word as an example, the term reaches all the way back to the 1800s when it was still used as a definition, sexually comparing women to dogs (who beg for men, etc. etc.) The word continued to rise in popularity throughout the entirety of the 1900s, reaching its peak in the early 2000s, according to Geoffrey Hughes’ “An Encyclopedia of Swearing: The Social History of Oaths, Profanity, Foul Language and Ethnic Slurs in the English-Speaking World.”
This is also not to say that women are the only targets of name-calling. Profanity and disrespect were present in every race and gender probably since the origin of man, all of which have been demeaned at one point or another if not still today.
I guess this becomes a reminder to remember your place in the world and to treat others with respect whether you’re serious or not.
As for chivalry and respect, I like to believe that they are not completely dead. Ladies and gentlemen still exist out there, right?
If so, prove it.